Introvert and Extrovert.

Sometimes I feel the world is not fair for introvert people. Why? As my observation, including me, we are not so good in the verbal communication. This thing often leads people have misunderstanding with us.

There was a research among babies. The group which love to obtain more stimulations tend to be the extrovert. I know now the reason. Because the extrovert need the energy when they are in crowd situation. They feel more alive. In contrast, some babies will cry when they are over stimulated. This group is the introvert one since they spend more energy to react to the environment.

Introvert and extrovert are two different personalities. Although nowadays we know there is another term to whose both of personalities, we called it ambivert. I think no single person in this world is totally introvert or extrovert. We are all ambiverts with our own level of intro-/extrovert. For example, I tend to be an introvert since it’s hardly for me to have small talk with stranger. Yet I can be so extrovert when I feel comfortable with someone. My husband is the opposite. He is more extrovert than me. He can break the ice when the situation becomes more serious. But he rarely talk personal things with somebody else.

So, why do I say that the world is not fair for introvert? Why is it because the weakness in verbal communication? Whenever I go, people who are able to convince someone else with their communication skills (in this case, the extrovert) tend to get chance easily. Although it might be the introvert and extrovert have the same quality and knowledge. But the introvert always gets difficulty to deliver their idea in an easy way to be understood.

Why can this be happen? This came back to how the children to be nurtured. Introvert and extrovert have their own needs. But most parents treat their children alike. but alike is not alway fair.

What I learn, introvert and extrovert is a good combination. Some of extroverts are good in diplomacy and introverts are good thinkers and can make better strategy. Last but not least, somehow you can realize that you can have best friend with someone who has totally different personality with you. Trust me! 😀

Two children playing (Wikimedia)

Sincerely me,

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. Muthi says:

    Jadi inget dulu pernah nanya ttg Introvert dan ekstrovert… Kata bu Wiwit mah… (psikolog YKBH) yang namanya introvert ekstrovert itu bukan bawaan lahir. Jadi memang bentukan lingkungan. Saat anak dibiasakan dapat menyampaikan gagasan sejak kecil, maka saat dewasa anak tersebut tak kesulitan untuk menyampaikan informasi secara verbal. Fitrahnya kita pas masih anak anak itu adalah spontan, mengeluarkan ekspresi verbal nonverbal apa yang dirasakan. Kalau dari kecil sang anak tidak diberi kebebasan untuk spontanitasnya, ya akhirnya jadi ’tertutup’ deh (bisa karena ortu terlalu mendominasi percakapan, terlalu galak sehingga anak segan, anak tidak diberi kesempatan berpendapat) dan sang anak ’tertutup’ tadi lebih senang dengan berkomunikasi dengan yang ada di pikirannya.

    Ada juga saya pernah mendengar nasihat sorang teman. Inteovert itu bukan kelemahan (kalau kita melihatnya dari sudut pandang orang yang sudah dewasa yak, da kalau udah dewasa mah mau diapain lagi atuh). Introvert itu artinya dia bisa mendapatkan kekuatan dari diamnya, dari perenungannya, dari kedalaman berpikirnya (adapun komunikasi *cara mendelivery gagasan* itu masalah skill yang perlu dilatih). Sedangkan ekstrovert mendapat kekuatan dari interaksinya dengan orang lain. Gitu cenah bedanya…

    1. Ruma[h]Rara says:

      Wah, makasi byk insightnya teh mut… 😀

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